Giving Mad Props Could Be Key to Getting Sleep

My bed is a magical placeHow many times have you climbed between the sheets only to dwell on what it is you still need to accomplish? How often do you try to fall asleep by counting the items on your to-do list? Do you ever wake in a panic, fretting over the items you are supposed to do but obviously can’t do at 2:32 in the morning?

During the final month of wedding preparations, I was waist deep in redesigning and launching a website. My thoughts raced from coding contact forms to figuring out how to construct paper rosettes. I would mentally add “check with cater” and “double-check video splash page” to my to-do list, only to wake in the wee hours with the same items rolling around in my mind.

Both projects were making me a bit of a wreck and not getting a whole lot of sleep only compounded my issues. There are medications or herbal supplements that claim to help with “shutting off” the mind, but I’m not great with pills. Chamomile tea or a hot bath before bed wasn’t doing the trick.

However, I did find a cure that takes only about five minutes of my time but lasts for eight hours.

Darren Hardy, publisher of Success Magazine, posted a “challenge” in his “To Be Great, Be Grateful” blog entry (Nov 2012).  He challenged readers “to think of an area of your life you are having difficulty in and want to improve. For the next 21 days, take three minutes at the end of the day and write down what about that problematic situation you appreciate, what’s good and what you’re grateful for. This could be a confrontational co-worker at the office, your job as a whole or your troubled marriage… anything or anyone that frustrates or negatively affects you.”

It was his claim that “when you change how you look at a situation, the situation changes.”

This positive shift in thoughts is reflected in an article on called The Power of Gratitude.   The article says that ” if you want to start attracting positive things into your life,  there is one small thing you should do every day—show your gratitude, appreciation and love for the people and things around you.

Focusing on what you accomplished and interactions that left a positive feeling right before bed helps to ease the “ear worm” or repetitious cycle of worry during the night.  It also helps to balance the perspective; meaning you aren’t always consumed with what needs to be done but can relish in what you have done.

The gratitude journal can also be used to shine a positive light on upcoming projects, events or encounters. Instead of fretting and hand twisting about the future, use the journal to focus on the positive outcome.  Plus, it’s a confidence booster.

“I can see myself losing five pounds and feeling great.”

“I will knock them dead at the conference.”

“I may experience some nerves, but I welcome the chance to read my own vows before friends and family.”

Remember, that worrying is forecasting a negative outcome to future events and you can’t control that.  Take control of what you can think about, focus on what it is you know (your ability, your skills) and take back your bedtime.

Not the journaling type? Even just making a mental list can enhance your perspective . . . and your sleep quality.

Every night, I write in a simple little black book about the three things that I am grateful for or that made me smile. Sometimes it is nothing more than an entry about the fifteen minutes I spent playing with my cat. But remembering the highlights of the day helps me to end the day on a positive feeling and not the anxiety that is produced from trying to think about all the things “I was supposed to do.”

And I’ve never slept better.



Winning the Morning Battle – My Hour of Power

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.”

Habits, defined as an action one performs on a daily basis automatically without having to conscientiously think about it, are powerful things. They can turn actions into attitudes and attitudes into a lifestyle that is difficult to alter or give up.  It becomes the norm. The standard. The ritual.

For the longest time, I regulated my writing time to “hobby” status. This means I was trying to fit it in when I had down time, after all the chores were done and felt I could take a few selfish moments to wax my creative side.  But at the end of my day, I was pretty much done and looking for down time. I had very little creative spark to lit my fire to write — not even a shopping list.

“The great composer does not set to work because he is inspired, but becomes inspired because he is working.” — Ernest Newman

Like all passions, I began to feel the need to create but lacked the time to do it.  Or so I thought. I took a hard look at my day and realized I was essentially wasting one of my greatest resources — my time.  I found I was wasting productivity in a variety of ways, from scanning Facebook posts of the same meme to reading uninspiring celebrity gossip articles. Needless to say, I gave those up.

Then I started looking at how I mortgage my time.  I have always been an early riser and actually function better before 9 a.m. than afterwards.  According to an interview with Robin Sharma on the February 2013 Success Magazine CD, one must “take back their mornings and win the battle of the bed.”  By this, he means get up an hour early and use that time to focus. Read the blogs, magazines or books that inspire you. Write for an hour or so.

Instead of staying up late and following the same routine of TV viewing, get a jump start on your day, tap into the creative side and hit the sheets a bit earlier.  It really comes down to where you want to funnel your energy — watching tv or writing during prime time?

Since April, I have risen 90-minutes before everyone in the house. I use that time to read, listen to CDs and write. I feel more productive and like I have taken the reins to guide my passion — rather than just trying to fit it in.  My alarm clock going off in the morning is actually something I look forward to every morning — including the weekends.

Aristotle once said that “We are what we repeatedly do.”  Why not install a habit that transforms your life. Make practicing your passion and creativity a daily habit.